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This article originally published November 13, 2015 and updated on February 4, 2019
Recently articles about this Stanford research keep popping up in my news feed. It says we’re sending our kids to school too early. And that is possibly why we have such a huge amount of attention deficit disorder diagnosed later.
*NOTE: *I have edited this article to add and emphasize the word “diagnosed”. I did this after realizing that I misinterpreted the linked article’s reference to ADHD originally. ADHD is not a disorder that can be created by environmental circumstances. It is a differently wired brain that we are born with. Yes, it can be exacerbated by the environment, absolutely, but the disorder itself is not CAUSED by the environment. It’s caused by a different brain. Therefore, when the linked article mentions “inattentiveness” and “hyperactivity” as being traits of ADHD, it is NOT saying that early academics CAUSES ADHD. Instead, it is suggesting that many of the children diagnosed probably do not actually have ADHD, but instead are neurotypical children placed in a very developmentally INappropriate environment. This inappropriate environment causes similar symptoms, which are being MISdiagnosed as ADHD, leading to
And they talk about how this isn’t the case in other countries, where kids aren’t sent to school until later.
Denmark is one example. And they make mention at the end that kids in Denmark have access to “reasonably good pre-kindergarten” (Denmark’s universal preschool)…and that this is “woefully lacking” in the U.S. This was interesting to me as preK in the U.S., more often than not, tends to include academics. So I looked up what Danish preschool is like.
Guess what? Danish preschool is play-based. Not what we see in the vast majority of U.S. preschools.
From that article:
Scandinavian preschools are heavy on play and self-directed learning…
So Scandinavian kids are nearly all in preschool from an early age…but it’s
At the end of the article:
One interesting hypothesis is posed: did attending school later allow kids more time to develop through unstructured play? Developmental psychology research emphasizes the importance of imaginative play in aiding children’s emotional and intellectual self-regulation. “Children who delay their school starting age may have an extended (and appropriately timed) exposure to such playful environments,” the study noted.
If it’s true that the extra time for unstructured play is what is causing the huge difference in numbers of diagnosed attention deficit…it appears that Denmark, and countries with similar practices, really GET child development. The U.S….not so much:
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So the research again and again says that it’s a mistake to push academics early…And yet our nation keeps pushing kids into academics earlier and earlier. What we adults learned as children is being taught in younger and younger grades these days! We’ve all noticed it.
And so some of us homeschool.
And then what do we read ALL. OVER. Homeschool groups. On social media. EVERY. FLIPPING. DAY??
(No joke. Just about every day!)
“What’s the best curriculum for a 3 year old?”
(Or insert some other inappropriately young age for academic work.)
Or some other similar question about getting started on academic work with a toddler or preschooler.
Formal academics are NOT age appropriate yet.
Let me say this again.
Teaching young children…2, 3, 4, and yes even 5 year olds…
Formal, structured academics are
NOT DEVELOPMENTALLY APPROPRIATE.
This drives me absolutely BONKERS, how common this question comes up and how many many MANY responses come in with resources to curricula and printables to use with littles. Mountains of it. Because there’s a huge market for it. Because parents don’t get how inappropriate it is.
Don’t believe me?
I have a Bachelor’s in child development, and this stuff was DRILLED. Into. My head. Throughout. My education. But don’t take my word for it. Do your own research on early childhood development.
Especially check out the foremost authority on early childhood education…the National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC). They rock. They were our gurus when I was in college, getting my degree.
Their website is stuffed with info, so a bit overwhelming…I recommend hovering over “Our Work” and then clicking on the “For Families” link, which will take you to the section geared towards families with young children. Lots to explore there. I especially recommend the section called “Browse Articles by Topic,” lots of great articles there.
But make sure to check out the “What to look for in a program” section. They talk about what a quality preschool program looks like. This can give you ideas for what you can create in your home.
Check out this article: What Do Children Learn in a High-Quality Preschool Program
Notice there is NO MENTION of lots of academic work. No worksheets or workbooks, no seat work, no structured academic curriculum. NONE.
Because guess what? No matter how cute and fun the worksheets are, and no matter how enthusiastic the child may be about them…Worksheets are just not appropriate for early childhood. Read that article if you don’t believe me. It’s an eye opener.
The curriculum NAEYC advocates for early childhood is PLAY BASED. Hands on, enriching, life learning, because THAT is what is developmentally appropriate for this age group. And their website is chock full of ideas for how to appropriately fill your child’s life with age appropriate, quality learning, so DIG IN!! Check out the teacher sections for activity ideas too!
Here is an excellent article by NAEYC that you really should read. It’s all about how academic rigor in early childhood looks very different than later on. Developmentally appropriate practice explained for PreK teachers so they can use it to explain to others…but a great read for you as well!
My point is this…
STOP LOOKING FOR A CURRICULUM FOR YOUR PRESCHOOLER!!
Unless it’s something play based, it’s not going to be developmentally appropriate anyway!! So save your money!!
What IS appropriate?
- First and foremost: Play with them
- Take them on walks
- Talk with them constantly, about everything you see and do!
- Read, read, read…then read some more! If you do nothing but play and read good books, you’ve done an EXCELLENT JOB at preschool!
- Do chores around the house together
- Run errands together
- Have lots of play dates with friends
- Go to the park
- Play in water
- Play with animals
- Walk in the woods…get out into nature regularly if you can!
- Dig in the backyard
- Get dirty!
- Go on lots of field trips: farms, zoo, kids museums, aquariums, behind the scenes tours, outdoor concerts
- Go swimming
- Sing lots of songs
- Do lots of open-ended (very important they are open-ended at this age!) art projects
- Cook together
- Have picnics
- Take drives
- Go to the library regularly
- Watch tv together (sparingly…but let’s not demonize tv…it’s a great tool and it’s here to stay! Moderation is the key here.)
- Play on the computer together (same as tv…used sparingly with little ones, it can be a great tool!)
- Play with letter and number magnets on the fridge
- Play card and board games
- Look at clouds
- Watch the sunrise and set
- Look at the stars and moon
- Go bird watching
- Draw with sidewalk chalk outside
- Climb trees together
- Ride bikes together
- Draw together every day
- Paint together
- Build things with loose parts (pipes, blocks, rocks, wood, sticks, cardboard, etc)
- Make forts!
- Play in a stream
- Make and play playdough
- Play in a sensory tub (check Pinterest for lots of sensory activity ideas for preK)
- Glue things together
- Break something apart (old toasters or other appliance…thrift stores are great for this!)
And THEN, maybe learn how to write the letters of their name.
And after that is accomplished…then work on building their name in the correct order with those letters. But do it as a game…Maybe start with the fridge magnets. Sidewalk
They will get it in time.
Right now they are just playing.
Let. Them. PLAY.
Your goal for the early years should be:
To fill their life with ENRICHING EXPERIENCES for them to build and draw upon later.
This will later lead to them having a frame of reference as they dive into academics when it IS developmentally appropriate!
No, I don’t mean, lecture them every step of the way…just let them experience it. Remember everything is NEW when they are young! And truly EVERYTHING is learning!!
Ask appropriate questions here and there…NAEYC has great info on that sort of thing. They have a book called Powerful Interactions: How to Connect with Children to Extend Their Learning you may want to check out.
They also have a book, “Tips for Talking with Children“, you can purchase on their website.
Here’s another great thing I learned…story dictations!
This came from Bev Bos, early childhood guru and former NAEYC member (sadly, Bev died in 2016), based in the Sacramento area where I went to school. Bev was a huge advocate of always having pencil and paper available (Bev had her helpers carry around clipboards) and to ask children to “Tell me your story…” or “How does your story start?”
Have your child dictate to you the many stories they have inside them. This promotes early literacy. It shows them how important their words are, and the value of writing them down, as you can read them back to them for years to come!
Also, have them tell you the stories of their drawings. Maybe not every one…but as often as they feel inclined. Write it right on the drawing, with their permission. Always ask permission…it shows respect for their art. And ask where is ok to write it. They may prefer it on a separate sheet of paper. That’s ok too. Follow their lead.
Speaking of Bev Bos…you have to watch this video of her. She has some truly excellent things to say about young kids:
Some great quotes from the video:
Interviewer: When we talk about child development, what are the basics?
Bev: People talk about reading, and writing and arithmetic being the basics. [shaking head] Those are very complex processes…and they have to be based on the basics. You have to have the basics first! Then you can do what people call the basics. The number one basic for everybody on this planet is wonder. Children are born with it….Then, the second basic is discovery. Everybody needs to discover it on their own. That’s an environmental issue. We need to establish environments where kids can do the discovering on their own…The experiences have to be real and they have to be authentic.
If it isn’t natural, relevant to the child and physical…we forget ’bout 99% of what we just learned.
Interviewer: When you look around your school, what are the most important things you look for?
Bev: [No hesitation whatsoever] It’s experience. Experiences to attach words to. And your own experiences to attach words to. You know, experience is not the best teacher, its the only teacher!
Talking about things we need in an early childhood learning environment:
Kids need to make their own dolls, they need to make their own things. They need loose parts. Pipes….rocks and stones. Water. Things to manipulate. Blocks. All math concepts are worked out in blocks.
The other thing that I think is so infinitely important about young children…what we have to understand about them is that when they’re young, learning is like this [arms wide] they have to use too much! It has to be way out there. Too much paint before they can narrow it down and paint a picture they have to have too much paint. Too much shaving cream. Too much of everything. Things have to run over.
So, as you can see…there’s no place for worksheets and force-fed learning. It’s all about hands-on, REAL LIFE experiences for this age group, or they aren’t getting anything out of it. For real.
For early childhood, play IS their curriculum.
It’s how they learn.
So stop stressing about whether they know their colors, their shapes, their letters, their numbers, and on and on and on…they’ll get there. This stuff isn’t rocket science. And unless they have some actual developmental delays, I guarantee they’ll learn most if not all of this as they play anyway. So STOP. STRESSING!
Just enjoy the play stage!
Because soon enough you’re going to be up to your eyeballs in reading and math curriculum and you’re going to truly miss the days of just building forts and making mud pies! TRUST ME!!
And comfort yourself in knowing that what you are doing IS DEVELOPMENTALLY APPROPRIATE!!!
It really is! I’m not pulling your leg! Read all the articles I’ve linked above! And if you need more proof, here’s some more:
How to Let Go of Letter of the Week in 5 Easy Steps (This requires you to enter your email for the pdf download…but the article is worth it! Excellent read!)
And here’s a fantastic article by a homeschool mom about what preschoolers should know, just to make you feel better and know that you ARE doing enough!:
What Should a 4 Year Old Know?
Relax, you’ve got this. Just enjoy your baby. And remember they really are just a baby still.
Trust the experts and the research, set up an enriching environment and daily routine, and JUST PLAY!
If you need some concrete ideas of how to spend these years, I’ve written a 12 part series on what we did during the early years. Here’s the first part. (Each subsequent part is linked at the end.)
I’m not kidding…PUT. The curriculum. DOWN. Right now. Put it down.
Stop Googling preschool curriculum….close that web browser….and go outside and play in the dirt with your kid.
Do it. NOW.
Don’t make me use my stern voice.